Reclaiming Power, Pleasure & Real Partnership
I work with emotionally intelligent adults navigating relational transition — divorce, breakup, retirement, empty nesting, opening or restructuring long-term partnerships. Most arrive when they realize they are not willing to die without feeling desired, excited, and eager for connection and real physical intimacy again.
Who This Is For
Women in perimenopause and menopause
To help them understand their physiology and the Flow State, so that they can efficiently get a month's worth of work done in a 24-hour time period, which completely changes their relationship to their own productivity, AND helps them rethink a lot of what it means to live in a man's world and how to be a feminine being, high performing, and naturally connected to others.
Men supporting menopausal partners
Men living with or loving women going through menopause and perimenopausal changes who want to be able to support them well.
Post-purity culture singles and couples
Deconstructing the shame and repression they carry from growing up in a repressive culture, finding their way back to their authentic, sensual, fully expressed selves, and loving it (usually a religious background they are letting go of). They come to me to open up, and they leave as free, happy, and in tune with their own unjudged pleasure again.
Recently divorced or big life/relationship changes
Including opening up an existing relationship. Integrating the lessons, loss, and growth from the end of an important relationship (usually a divorce, death, or job end/retirement) and finding strength, co-empowerment within themselves, and putting themselves back out there in a supported, encouraging manner. They find their own power and reclaim their identity and masculine men with healthy, strong masculinity.
Evolving past codependency
Into co-empowerment and inter-reliability — how to practically explore the world with autonomy, respect for those around you, and live in harmony without giving up yourself.
General dating & polyamory guidance
People in the dating world often believe "there is no good scene in my city," but that is usually because they are communicating like a 3rd grader, and no one wants to play with them. With my 25 years of polyamory wisdom, they learn and practice ways to express themselves in relationships, maintain solid boundaries, and communicate in ways that create openings, intimacy, and authenticity. They leave confident, communicative, and secure in themselves again.
Men & women wanting to explore their sexuality deeper
Owning their own sexuality, finding and exploring what that might be (usually older, often men looking to explore sexual energies with other men for the first time). They come because I enjoy men, women, and groups and can help them connect, relax, explore and enjoy without judgment, pressure, or pushing. When my pleasure leads, everything else becomes simple and natural. What changes? They discover things about themselves they didn't know and have a deeper source of fuel for their lives. They walk through the world tall, confident, and sure of themselves.
You deserve to be
supported in your
Pleasure…
Driven by curiosity and built on purpose, this is where bold femininity meets thoughtful masculinity to create something meaningful and beautiful together.
What Clients Have Said…
““I was in a seriously dark place when I first met Rebecca. She helped me see my life from new perspectives, and is knowledgeable about the dynamics of human interaction.
She is astute at recognizing strengths in others, honestly complimenting them, and helping you appreciate those things about yourself. She always met me wherever I was with acceptance, care, and affection.
As a man, feeling complete patience and acceptance from a woman is both an aphrodisiac and a powerful form of healing. Rebecca’s most profound ability is being able to figure out what you need and provide it. She has wisdom about life and love that she’s willing to share.
What I know is that she provided exactly what I needed during one of the most difficult times in my life.””
“★ ★ ★ ★ ★
This changed everything — and I’m not being dramatic.
I came into this carrying a lot. Learning disability. ADHD — diagnosed at 45, but honestly? Classic signs since I was three. And a block I could not get past no matter how hard I pushed or how many productivity systems I tried to force myself into.
What Rebecca did was map my actual day. Not some ideal day. Mine. We built it around what brings me pleasure, what helps me recover, what fills my soul bank — and for me that’s always the people I love most. The structure we landed on was simple: rest, work, pleasure, repeat, recover. That’s it.
And here’s the thing — it works because of how our brains are actually built, not because of hustle. Flow state research shows your brain has to cycle through intensity and genuine recovery to sustain focus.
For those of us with ADHD, we’re not broken — we’re wired for depth and intensity, not the grind. When your day finally matches your nervous system instead of fighting it, everything shifts.
I stopped trying to work like everyone else and started working like me.
I use these tools every day. I’ll use them the rest of my life. Not because someone told me to — because they work and I feel it.
If you’ve ever felt like standard productivity advice just wasn’t built for your brain… you’re probably right.
This is different.”
““If you want to learn to be a better lover to your partner or spouse, if you want to learn how to be a better communicator to what you actually want when you are in the bedroom, Rebecca has a lot of experience… better than any other therapy.””
““My time spent with Rebecca was truly life-changing. I was able to recognize and release deeply ingrained toxic beliefs such as the idea of possession and jealousy, and now am able to feel compersion. This change in mental programming has indisputably improved my relationships.””
How I Work
I refuse to let you hide from yourself, and I bring a compassionate, shiny mirror so you can see the patterns you're actually engaging in and where those patterns end up if nothing changes.
From there we work with shamanic insight tools, elemental balance with nature, and the work of clarifying what your soul is actually hungry for, because nothing stops your maturity faster than not feeding what pulls you forward.
What we work with
This is direct, grounded work with real relational and erotic experience as it's happening in your life. A session may slow down a real interaction line by line to see where you lost internal clarity. We may map relational patterns that repeat across partners. We may work through how to re-enter intimacy, dating, or partnership with a clearer internal structure and more emotional steadiness.
We might address the factors creating instability in your personal relationships that are invisible to you, and obvious to someone with my perspective. I love to share the knowledge compassionately.
Behind the work
Fifteen years of body study. A certification in Performance Neuroscience Coaching through the Flow Research Collective. A long-term apprenticeship in a teaching lineage.
I have been in early perimenopause for ten years, which has shaped how I work as much as any training. As someone who has tied her productivity and her income together over her career, the inability to predict my energy level, focus, and sleep quality was a huge problem and kept me from traveling for work and being fully present in my life — and that cost was so high it forced me to find ways to fix it.
I have. And I have found ways to get my partners' enthusiastic engagement and support.
I am able to point out the landmines in relationships and help you avoid them while you figure out what genuinely makes you happy and find a regular state of flow and alignment in your life.
Where my work stops
I'm not a therapist. I cannot work with people who have mental health or attachment issues that require therapeutic intervention.
And, as a polyamorous woman who loves the local community and enjoys creating sisterhood and transparency, I am also not willing to work with people who are cheating or hiding their engagement from their romantic partners (my website form asks if they have a clear conscience and agreement from their other partners).
Sessions
True sensual pleasure. Deep romantic partnership work, alone or with your partner. Playful connections where you get to learn who you truly are and what genuinely excites you. Or pure witnessing and listening.
A session starts with a short conversation to ground, connect, and see where you are at today, what you need, and what is important for us to talk about before we make a plan for the day/session.
One-on-One Advisory Sessions
Begins with conversation to determine what is up at the beginning of each session. Includes practical hands-on experience where applicable & agreed on.
Immersion & Ongoing Connection
Usually a planning meeting to get clear on the goals and intent, and then a handful of “adventure” meetings — field trips to explore someplace particular (paddle boarding together in the Sound, exploring Club Sapphire, etc.). We design these together the same way every session starts: we make a plan, maintain solid boundaries, and agree on the shape before we begin.
Mutual nudity and reciprocal touch is welcomed with a verbal consent conversation.
Overnight Sleep Reset
This is designed for those who need an immediate solution for their poor sleep. A good chunk of time is spent figuring out what is limiting your sleep and creating a strategic plan (immediate and future) for good, solid rest. Often the going-to-bed and waking-up rituals happen together so you can use my good sleeper energy to pull you into deep restful sleep.
Adventure Sessions
As simple as a walk or paddle through the cut or around the pocket beaches. Fill out the booking request form and we decide together what adventure feels fun and supportive of the conversation.
Rates
Clarity Conversation
25 minutes by phone or video
$250
Prefer to meet in person first?
$400
Email me directly, and we'll find a public place that works for us both/all for a playful in-person connection — a first hour of social time (in public) to see how we connect
An hour of private conversation, in person or online (all hours after the first are $900 unless part of a package
$900
90 minutes
$1,400
Extended Afternoon, 4 hours
$3,600
Overnight Sleep Reset
$6,500
Immersion & Ongoing Connection
By arrangement
How to Begin
If this resonates, the best first step is a short conversation to clarify what you are navigating and whether this work is right for you.
$250 for 25 minutes — to move quickly, target whatever you have going on right away, and along the way, discover if working together is a great fit.
Start a free conversation over email. Tell me what's happening, and we go from there.
If a form won't go through, a VPN or privacy blocker is usually the reason — turn it off for a minute and try again, or just email me at radiantrebecca@workwithradiantrebecca.com and we'll take it from there.
Send me a message, introduce yourself, and let me know what is inspiring you to reach out…
My workwithradiantrebecca.com domain email runs on ProtonMail. If privacy matters, write to me from your own ProtonMail account, and our messages will be end-to-end encrypted.
I work with a limited number of people so that we are able to maintain a good connection which increases in depth over time. You do not need to be certain before reaching out — just honest about what is no longer working for you.
Screening by provider references or in-person public meeting is accepted, as well as a few other methods, depending on comfort level with each other.
About Radiant Rebecca
Fifteen years of body study. Certification in Performance Neuroscience Coaching through the Flow Research Collective. A long-term apprenticeship in a teaching lineage. Ten years of lived experience in early perimenopause which has shaped how I work as much as any training.
I work with the people I trust most — friends, collaborators, my photographer Jody Wentworth. These are people whose lives intersect with mine in real ways.
Photos by Jody Wentworth · Harbor & Helm PhotographyCancellations require 24 hours notice. · All sessions are held with strict confidentiality.